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Paramour achievement in Mass Effect 3

Paramour

Establish or rekindle a romantic relationship.

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How to unlock the Paramour achievement

  • CndnVikingCndnViking
    12 Mar 2012 09 Mar 2012 16 Apr 2012
    For the most part, if you've played any of the Mass Effect or Dragon Age games, you should know how Bioware romances work: you basically just continue to say nice things to whoever you're after and, right at the moment of no return when everybody's about to die NATURALLY the mood is in the air.

    But for those of you who want a more in-depth, step-by-step, partner-by-partner type guide, here ya go.

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    Ashley (available to M only)
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    Prerequisite: She must survive the events of ME1.

    After the early events of the game, Ashley will spend time in the Huerta Memorial Hospital. Visit her between missions, choosing Paragon responses (Upper!) to show her interest.

    Old romances from ME1 can be rekindled, or new Male Shepards can start fresh.

    During the early conversations before her injury, make sure to choose the Paragon options as well.

    Even when she’s unconscious in the Citadel, visit her and offer some kind words anyway. While there, you can purchase a special item, a Tennyson Collection, at the store terminal in the hospital lobby. You may have to wait until she’s awake to purchase and gift the special item.

    Visit her; during your first trip to the Citadel, after the mission on Palaven, and a third time before finishing the Tuchanka missions. Afterwards, she’ll be ready to rejoin you.

    After Tuchanka, and during the mission in the Citadel, you’ll want your trust high enough so Ashley will side with you during the ending confrontation.
    If you were in another relationship in ME2, you’ll need to apologize and confirm that you’re interested in Ashley.
    After she joins again, eventually she’ll offer to meet at the Presidium Commons. If she doesn’t push for a serious relationship, you can. With that, you’ll be well on your way to sealing the deal.

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    Kaiden (available to F only)
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    Prerequisite: He must survive the events of ME1.
    If you were in a previous relationship with Kaidan, you’ll have extra trust already established, but you’ll still need to convince him you’re serious during the first mission on Mars. Choose Paragon responses to reassure him of your loyalties.

    After he’s hurt, you’ll be able to visit Kaidan in the Huerta Memorial Hospital on the Citadel. Visit him during your first arrival, after the mission on Palaven, and before completing Tuchanka.

    Talk to him often and build up intimacy so that he trusts you during the battle in the Citadel. Like Ashley, you can bring Kaidan a gift while he’s in the hospital — a bottle of Peruvian Whiskey from the store console in the lobby.
    If you started a relationship with Kaidan in ME1 but switched to a new partner in ME2, he’ll be offended. Make sure to apologize! Otherwise, you can start a new relationship with Kaidan.

    Build enough trust and Kaidan will offer to meet you in the Presidium Commons after he joins you on the Normandy. If he doesn’t push for a serious relationship, you can.

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    Liara (available to M or F)
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    Prerequisite: None

    New players or players with a previous relationship with Liara from ME1 can romance Liara. Early on you’ll be able to declare your interest in rekindling an old relationship if you’ve imported a save file.

    Early in the game, you’ll be able to find Liara near the cafe in the Presidium Commons. Talk to her there to build intimacy and trust, and before completing the missions on Tuchanka.

    Speak with Liara enough between missions, and eventually she’ll request to speak with Shepard in your cabin. Invite her up and discuss her time capsule.

    Later on, she’ll send an e-mail requesting to meet on the Citadel. If you’ve built up enough intimacy, you’ll be able to commit to a serious relationship now.

    Whether committed or not, after visiting Liara’s homeworld, make sure to speak with her.

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    Tali (avaialble to M only
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    Prerequisite: She must survive the events of ME2, and you must start a relationship in ME2.

    Tali appears during your first diplomatic meeting with the Quarians. While sharing a personal moment, rekindle your old relationship by confirming your interest.

    Speak with her again immediately afterwards, she’ll be in the CIC. Later, you’ll be able to have more intimate conversations with her during the mission on her former homeworld.

    During the missions around Rannoch, Tali will request to visit Shepard’s cabin. Invite her in with your computer, and she’ll ask if you want to continue their relationship.
    Make sure to call Tali up to your cabin before completing the Reaper Base mission on Rannoch, or you’ll miss your chance with Tali.

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    Miranda (available to M only)
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    Prerequisite: She must survive the events of ME2, and you must start a relationship in ME2.

    If you entered into a romantic relationship with Miranda in ME2, you’ll have the option to rekindle it in ME3.

    Early, after the Mars and Turian homeworld missions, she’ll contact you and request a meeting in the Citadel. Speak with her at the Normandy docks.

    After the Priority mission on the Citadel, you’ll be able to speak with her in your Spectre office. She’ll request to talk in person in the Presidium Commons apartments. Visit her, and if you’ve been polite, you’ll be able to commit to a serious relationship.

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    Jack (available to M only)
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    Prerequisite: She must survive the events of ME2, and you must start a relationship in ME2.

    To find Jack, talk to Specialist Traynor in the Normandy. She’ll tell you about Grissom Academy. Visit the station and you’ll find Jack during the concurrent mission.
    Choose the Paragon responses during the mission, and afterwards on the shuttle, wait for a Paragon event and trigger it while the students cheer.

    Afterwards, she’ll send you an e-mail requesting to talk in Purgatory. Get to the Citadel and meet her, where you can discuss your past.

    During this scene, agree to a serious relationship to commit.

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    Cortez (available to M only)
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    Prerequisite: None

    One of the easier romantic options for Shepard, he’s available at the beginning of the game in the Normandy.
    Talk to him often between missions by visiting his post in the cargo deck. Keep talking between missions, until you find him working on one of the dropships. He’ll discuss stress, suggest that he take some time off at the Citadel.

    Cortez starts in the docking bay, where you can have a discussion with him. After that, he’ll move to the refugee area, where you can continue the intimate conversation.

    If you were nice, Cortez will e-mail you and request to meet at Purgatory, the club on the Citadel. Talk to him there commit to a serious relationship.

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    Garrus (available to F only)
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    Prerequisite: Garrus must survive the events of ME2, and you must have started a relationship with him in ME2.

    After Garrus joins your squad again, if you’re playing Female Shepard and imported a save where you were romantic with Garrus in ME2, he’ll mention rekindling your relationship.

    Speak with Garrus in the main battery of the Normandy, and meet him in the Citadel whenever you can to talk. He’ll usually send you an e-mail, check them regularly and stop by when he e-mails and requests to talk.
    After the missions on Tuchanka, you can talk to Garrus in the cockpit. You’ll be able to keep talking to him between missions, just keep checking and choosing friendly responses that indicate your interest in a relationship.
    Once enough trust is built up, Garrus will offer to meet in the Citadel. From there, he’ll ask you to commit to a serious relationship.


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    Traynor (available to F only)
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    Prerequisite: None
    Just like Cortez, Traynor is available at the beginning of ME3 once you have control of the Normandy. She’ll always be onboard in the CIC, right next to the Galaxy Map.
    Talk to her between missions to exchange friendly banter. Be polite, and eventually she’ll mention her interest in Chess. Agree to play Chess with her later.
    Eventually, Traynor will request to see you in your cabin. Invite her up and suggest Traynor use the shower (!) after she brings it up. Then you’ll have the chance to commit to a serious relationship with Traynor.


    NOTE: IT APPEARS THAT, WHILE SHEPARD CAN HOOK UP WITH DIANA ALLERS, THIS DOES NOT POP THE ACHIVEMENT. DO SO AT YOUR OWN RISK.
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    W4RW01FI just found out on my most recent playthough you are able to sleep with 2 characters in the same playthrough unless it was a glitch on my playthough. What i personally did was to romance Ashley, if you romance someone that requires you to commit before Dianas second interview then you will not be able to do this. But all you need to do is act like you are romancing Ashley from the walkthough above, but do not go to the presidium to meet up with her instead continue until Dianas second interview have her stay, and tell her you will keep it confidential. After this you can romance ashley and the achievement will pop, and you will get to sleep with diana too.
    Posted by W4RW01F on 18 Apr 12 at 05:40
    Iron Man TStarkum, i didn't sleep with anyone in this game - never played the other M.E. games - no achievement - confused about this one :|
    Posted by Iron Man TStark on 25 May 12 at 09:55
    iBishBashBosh xCan anyone confirm if it's possible to establish a relationship after having finished the game, being a male Shepard and having no ME1 or ME2 imports?

    Thanks in advance. :)
    Posted by iBishBashBosh x on 18 Jun 12 at 12:56
    ForsakenSage24Sigh. I have a female Shepard. Disappointed in lack of female options.
    Posted by ForsakenSage24 on 29 Jun 12 at 23:45
    CndnViking@iBishBashBosh x - You CAN do it without playing ME1 or 2.... but not after finishing the game, sorry.
    Posted by CndnViking on 01 Jul 12 at 06:20
    Skydude252As has been mentioned in other comments, Kaidan puts the "Bi" in "Biotic"...so negged until it's changed.

    He just seemed so sad when my ManShep turned him down. Cortez didn't seem bothered, at least, which was nice. Don't want another Anders situation...
    Posted by Skydude252 on 25 Oct 12 at 13:11
    Mithodor NBlol, "sleep with Diana at your own risk!" Because she hasn't been tested for STDs.
    Posted by Mithodor NB on 04 Jul 13 at 18:50
    Vindicator210^In the future there's a cure for all that shit lol
    Posted by Vindicator210 on 15 Sep 16 at 06:49
    Fuzzmeister JShame you don't mention Kelly. Achievement pops just fine with her.
    Posted by Fuzzmeister J on 09 Mar 17 at 05:41
    Phoenix C64FemShep, went for Kaidan in ME1, in ME2 I made a save and went with Garrus for the chievo, then reloaded and continued without romancing anyone in that playthrough.
    Paramour III (ME3) popped right after having lunch with Kaidan and deciding to continue the relationship. I had chances with other characters but I just brushed off their advances. This guide helped to make sure I wouldn't fail. Thank you.
    Posted by Phoenix C64 on 13 Jul 21 at 22:10
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